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Khaya Dlanga Ponders South Africans’ Reluctance to Date Across Racial Lines

In My Arrogant OpinionKhaya Dlanga, author of In My Arrogant Opinion, believes that as South Africans we are still “very much in our comfort zone” when it comes to dating across the colour line.

Using his own and a friend’s personal experiences as a launching pad for his piece, Dlanga comes to the conclusion that often “race seems to matter more than how people actually feel”.

Dlanga says he “finds it fascinating” that in a country where the vast majority of people are black, he meet an “overwhelming amount of white people who have never kissed a black person”.

I spent some time with a very good friend of mine who lives in Cape Town. Now, for the purposes of this column I have to mention his race. He is a black guy who has predominantly dated white women in South Africa. He is not South African. He made some interesting observations I found stinging and interesting at the same time. He told me to write about how – as contradictory as this may sound – he hasn’t ended up with white girls exclusively because he just likes white women. It’s because he has felt that it’s more difficult for him to get with black women in South Africa because he senses a barrier because he does not speak any South African languages.

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